New Chapter, More Insanity

running for adoption

As some of you know, Jason and I are in the process of adding to our family through adoption. Our family of five will soon become a family of six (I can’t even stinkin’ believe it and sometimes most of the time, it leaves me feeling like we are totally insane).

I mean, really.

Landon is 4, Charlotte will be 3 next week and Aiden just turned 1.

 

Jason and I discussed adoption seriously when I was pregnant with Charlotte. With both agreed that it was something we absolutely wanted to do. We thought that meant we would start the adoption process after I gave birth to Charlotte.

God had other plans.

One day, I couldn’t shake this feeling that I needed to get pregnant again. At the time, Landon was nearly three and Charlotte just turned one. Jason and I talked it over, and we agreed.

Time to get to business. 

A month later we were pregnant with Aiden, and while all three of my pregnancies were actually quite wonderful (stop it with the ‘I’m-going-to-kill-you-glare’ women who had challenging pregnancies. I’m sorry! It’s just the way it all worked out 😉 ) I knew that it was the very last time I wanted to be pregnant.

I wanted my body back…err…some semblance of the former body I used to have….so we decided that we’d move forward with the adoption process like we had tried once before.

This time, I felt a huge peace. Even an urgency from The Lord.

This was it. This was His timing, not mine.

After having Charlotte, and moving to Northern MI, we started fundraising for an adoption. However, the entire time I felt this check in my spirit like “Laura, not now. This is good, just not now.”

Note to self: don’t ignore those little checks in your spirit again.

So, we pressed forward as we choleric’s tend to do, and a minimal amount of money came in.

Sometimes  Most often, it takes us firstborns awhile to concede to an idea other than our own.

For us, adoption is a beautiful picture of what God has done for those who believe  in the spiritual realms. 

God’s Word, the Bible, tells us that…

He predestined us to be adopted as his sons through Jesus Christ, in accordance with his pleasure and will – Ephesians 1:5

 The Spirit you received does not make you slaves, so that you live in fear again; rather, the Spirit you received brought about your adoption to sonship. And by him we cry, “Abba, Father.” – Romans 8:15

We also know as Christ-followers that we are to follow James 1:27 which tells us: “Religion that God our Father accepts as pure and faultless is this: to look after orphans and widows in their distress and to keep oneself from being polluted by the world.”

Add that to the fact that there are approximately 147 million orphans worldwide –

Let that sink in. 147 million orphans.

147 million babies with no mama to kiss their boo-boo’s.

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147 million little ones with no daddy to cradle them in strong arms.

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147 million precious children with no one to tell them ‘I love you’, care for them.

– and Jason and I knew we needed to adopt.

We’re adopting from South Africa, as it has crazy-special place in our hearts, since we met there some 9 years ago.

So, that’s totally crazy.

But were doing something additionally crazy.

WE ARE FREAKING GOING TO RUN A HALF MARATHON FOR OUR SON.

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People.

Laura Loewen.

The girl who hasn’t been on one, no not one sports team in her entire life.

The girl who hasn’t given working out an honest effort in six months.

This girl (and her cute husband) are running a half marathon!!

September 6, 2014 on the shores of Holland, MI for the Holland Haven race, you will find us (inevitably toned, less fatty…) rockin’ and rollin’ after training for the spring and summer.

So will you join us?

Will you be a part of our story? Of our sons story?

We will be raising funds for our half marathon and every last penny will go toward funding our $40,000 adoption (yes, it’s true).

If you’re interested in blessing our family and changing a little boys’ life forever, you can go to:

http://www.abbafund.org/blog/the-loewens-family-adoption/family-adoption-fund/#/step1

Through Abba Fund, you can give via credit card, debit card, even cell phones and commodities!

Thanks for considering this – what a journey we’re on!

Through Unspeakable Joy,

Laura

 

 

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7 thoughts on “New Chapter, More Insanity

  1. Dot Girl

    Do you realize that there are orphans in this country as well? We have hundreds of thousands of children in our foster care system who need loving homes and people to be there for them. The cost is minimal compared to $40k for an international adoption.

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    1. lauraloewen Post author

      Hi Dot Girl. Yes, I am aware of the orphans that need forever homes in our country as well. As a former adoption counselor, I know that there are needs and families that run a wide spectrum. I am thankful for the many families that have or are in the process of adopting both domestically and internationally. I think every family needs to do what they feel called to, and it’s so great to see that families are called to both.

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  2. Dot Girl

    it is sad that you are more willing to take a child away from its culture while children here rot in the foster care system only to be phased out at 18 and not have a forever family ..which is a term you use in pet adoption..to have a family of their own.

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    1. OrdinaryAwesome

      Phew… that’s getting pretty harsh to a family who is clearly trying to be obedient to God, and feeling a leading toward a particular country. My husband and I aren’t adopting from the U.S. or from another country, so I never make judgments about others’ obedience! Aging out of foster care in the U.S. is a huge issue – I totally agree. But perhaps instead of condemning someone who clearly has a heart for orphans and is already doing something about it, we could each get involved where we are! What a great challenge, Laura!

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    2. lindsygriffis

      Yowza. Can I ask a question? You seem quite concerned about the orphans in the states here… so are you adopting or fostering?
      A couple of reasons that I know that people (myself included) adopt internationally, ASIDE from seeking the Lord and being obedient to that calling.
      1) Not all foster kids are adoptable. In many states (Michigan included), the courts will prefer to keep a child with their biological family. A grandparent, aunt, uncle, whoever. Most children who are in the system are there with the hopes that they will somehow stay with their bio parents or extended family. Fostering-to-adopt is risky waters, because there are no guarantees that those kids will ever be able to be adopted. People NEED to step up to do it, YES. But, my family, for example, doesn’t feel that this is our role RIGHT NOW. We have younger kids, like Laura. We would rather add to our family a child who is going to stay without risk of them leaving, mostly for our children’s sake. When my kids are older and more mature, that might be a better time to explain why their foster sibling had to move out.
      2) Staying in birth order. The median age of children in foster care is 8 years old. I’ve also read that studies say that when adopting, staying in birth order does make a positive difference. When your oldest child is 3 or 4, fostering-to-adopting a younger child could leave you waiting for a long time.
      3) Domestic adoptions outside of foster care usually are for newborns. I’ve given birth to two babies. I’ve done the newborn stage, and there are many MANY people who suffer infertility who love to adopt domestically to get their squishy snuggles. The waiting list to adopt newborn domestic adoption is long. I’ll let those who haven’t had a newborn get their chance.
      4) The conditions in foreign countries. In the states, regardless if kids have a family, their basic needs WILL be met. They will have food and shelter and a foster family. Kids in orphanages in foreign countries are not guaranteed such. For many of these kids, their adoption is life or death. Or being sex trafficked vs actually having a successful future. Some of these kids are rejected in their own culture due to superstition or what have you, because of medical needs that we know are very minor. They will not be adopted domestically. You say it is sad that they are taken from their culture? If their culture were going to give them a healthy life, I would agree with you. But the truth is, that simply isn’t the case. Luckily OUR culture is (mostly) very accepting of multi-racial/cultural families, and they can still find a healthy and vibrant life here.
      5) Last one. I value the life of my future daughter in China just as much as I would a foster kid in my own state. I don’t raise one above the other. Prayer, careful consideration, and the position our family is in has lead me to decide that international adoption is the RIGHT choice for us right now. Like I said before, my heart does break for the kids in foster care. But fostering is not always the right choice, and it is not always the right time to do this. For me (and Laura, in the brief conversation I’ve had with her), this is not either-or. It is seeking the Lord in what is next.

      I don’t want to speak for Laura… but I’ll stand by my own words. Haha.

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  3. Hannah

    Hey Laura-

    Love reading your blog! What an awesome experience to adopt from somewhere that means so much to your family! And now you get to learn more about that culture and your kids can learn too. There are so many kids out there who need loving families and not so many families able or willing to adopt. Blessings to you and your family as you wait for God to bring you your baby!

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    1. lauraloewen Post author

      Hannah,
      So good to hear from you! Glad you like reading the blog! We are so excited to adopt and thankful that God is giving us this opportunity. I hope you’re doing well!
      Laura

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